Mental Health

The Darkest Season of the Year: Notes on Difficult Family Gatherings

 It’s the most wonderful time of the year, so goes the carol.  But is it really?  December days are dreary and dark.  Rain presses down, and the chill of winter seeps into our bones.  It’s hard to rise from bed.  The holidays brim with stress: children’s activities and social occasions every week.  The shopping spree unleashes madness in the malls, leaving consumers […]

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The Misuses of Mindfulness

Mindfulness has enjoyed a stellar career in the last 30 years.  Rooted in Buddhist meditation, mindfulness is now widely practiced in schools, hospitals, companies, and therapy offices across North America.  This blooming popularity stems from its reputation as a portal to inner stillness, a balm that soothes the stress of modern life.  Scientists have gathered compelling evidence that

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Living a Beautiful Life: Habits for Mental Health

People come to counselling because they are hurting. Something has gone awry. A relationship ends, a career stalls, health declines. Clients come in search of healing and repair in the throes of adversity. Counselling therapy can be helpful as we navigate the difficult passages of life. However, if therapy is only for times when things

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Faith without Belief: How to Face the Terror of Living

One of the challenges of growing older is dealing with the panic that comes with time’s passing. The days might be long, but the weeks are short. The years are merciless. The slip of vanishing days catches us in terror. We realize that this march of mortality is indifferent to our protest, oblivious to our

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Is Counselling Therapy a Form of Paid Friendship?

I heard someone complain once: “I want my friends to listen and my therapist to give my advice. But it turns out, my therapist listens and my friends give me advice.” This observation raises questions about the role of therapists in relation to friendship. What we seek in friendships – understanding, sympathy, solidarity – is

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The Logic of Burn-Out: Why We Tolerate the Intolerable

I notice a pattern among clients who suffer from burn-out. In the clutch of demanding responsibilities, people fear that everything will collapse without their involvement. Duties wither their spirits, but they cannot shirk their tasks. “My children need me,” they might say. “The team will cease to function without me.” Thus, they are caught in

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